Sex, So what is this all about?

I never understood why people get so worked up about sex. It's dirty some say, it's bad others say, it's the best thing since sliced bread, still others would say. I think this... sex is sex. If you have the right partner sex can be enjoyable, pleasurable and very very good. If you have the wrong sex partner, well then do I really need to say it.

Many people spend a life time trying to have sex, some have quite too much and then there are those that have it and cant wait until they can have it again.

Sex means different things to different people, and what it means to you might be having a big effect on your relationship. What is sex?

The dictionary says that sex is sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse. Now that sounds like a nice pretty definition of what we all want. But I also found this article by Brian Moylan entitled "The Definition of "Sex". In this article he quotes a study that was done by The Kinsey Institute for Higher Sexication.

The study says, 95 percent of people agree that when a penis goes into a vagina then "sex"—that thing that we have spent so much much, waged so many wars, and sweated so many hours in the gym to attain—has occurred. However, 11 percent of people say that if there was no ejaculation, then there was no "sex." Also 30 percent of people think oral sex is not "sex" and 20 percent believe that anal sex is not "sex" even though they both have "sex" in the title.

You may be laughing because you're sure we all know what "sex" means, right? Well, not really. Do you remember that former President Bill Clinton, said he had NOT had sex with "that woman," and lots of people believed he was simply lying? He had a different definition of what sex means. Many people think that only sexual intercourse is sex and that anything short of full intercourse, no matter how intimate, is just not sex. Think of young women or men who may have done lots of pretty intimate sexual things but never had intercourse. What sex means to them may be different than to others. They still say they are virgins and they're right. So you need to be sure you and the people you talk to about the topic are on the same page about what sex means.

Now, notice that in the above paragraph, we use the term sexual intercourse or intercourse. Everyone knows exactly what sex means, right? Again, not really. When 300 Yale students were asked to define what sex means, they offered a wide range of answers. Some said, "It's any kind of intimate sexual touching." Others thought it wasn't true intercourse unless there was simultaneous, mutual climax. In fact, sex means that the man's penis enters the woman's vagina. Even dictionaries vary in their definitions of what sex means. Some include male ejaculation in the definition, others don't. Maybe the inclusion of ejaculation in the definition reflects a very reproductive view of intercourse, but it is not an accurate or practical definition.Now back to the study, The study concludes that there is a disagreement about what constitutes "having sex." I hate confusion, so I am going to break it down for you: "Having sex" means any consensual behavior between two or more individuals involving genital contact and bodily penetration. That means oral sex, anal sex, and vaginal sex are all "sex." Sorry, guys on the DL, even if you have anal sex (top or bottom) with guys means you still "have sex" with men. It is also "sex" if no orgasm or ejaculation occurs. If you put a penis (or vagina) in your mouth in a coat room for 30 seconds, you had "sex" with that person. It was probably short and unfulfilled for both parties, yes, but it was still sex. "Sex" also includes any activity that happens in the presence of prophylactics. Just because you wore a condom, does not mean you didn't bang that fat chick who lived in the room next to yours sophomore year. :)

Another confusing term is one that doctors sometimes use. They may ask if you are "sexually active." One woman we heard about said, "No, I just lie still." Joke. The doctor probably wants to know if the patient has had or is having sexual intercourse, not because the doctor is nosy, but so that she or he can talk about contraception, safer sex, and/or whether the patient has any questions or worries about sex.

Then there are all the terms that are used in casual conversation, for example, "hooking up." We THINK most people use it to refer to two people meeting and having a rather casual, probably one-night sexual encounter that may or may not include intercourse. We suspect that these casual terms change their meaning from time to time and may even mean different things in different places.

This leaves some leeway for hand jobs, heavy petting, and general rubbing. However, if any of these behaviors occurred and the subject of sex is brought up, they must be acknowledged. It's like being charged with a felony but not convicted. So if you jerked a guy off in a New Jersey truck stop and someone asks, "Did you have sex today?" You can say, "No," but you must add, "But I did jerk someone off." Also, if you reached into a girl's pants and played around a bit while making out before being interrupted by your screaming wife who yells, "Are you having sex with her?" you can say, "No!" but you must add, "I was just playing around in her pants a bit."

That, everyone, is the definition of sex. It's kind of like pornography, it's hard to define, but we know it when we see it. The rest of it is just semantics so we can make ourselves not feel like dirty sluts or get away with cheating on a significant other. Really only lawyers and eight-year-olds play semantics and only religious prudes are ashamed of sex. And no one likes any of those.

Happy New Year Final Thoughts

Happy 2013 to you!!

So here we are in the final hours, at least on the west coast for 2012. So, Let we first start off by wishing you and yours and Happy and prosperous New Year.

So now I thought this would be a great time to talk more about me and my journey. I thought 2012 was a pretty interesting year. I had a lot of good times, but I had some very hard times too. I made a lot of changes but the most important change I made in 2012 was to be ME. Stop trying to hid the nature of who I am. Stop making myself miserable because of what others thought of me.

Some say I have great potential, and you know what. they are right. But it's not because I don't curse, or I do what they me want me to do. It's because God gave me talent to write, sing, even give a fuck speech to move people to action or regret. I could say it is genetic but I don't really think so. It was just who I was created and destined to be. It's a fucking gift from God! deal with it.

Other say I am a waste of a good egg, why because again I will not submit to their will. So what do I say to them, you got it FUCK you! I am who i am and I learned with all my mistakes, all my failures, successes, great ideas and bad ideas. I truly love me. It took me a while to get here too. Actually it took me way too long. Giving my power to others just made me miserable in the end.

I tell people all the time, I tried to be what everybody wanted me to be and I failed miserably. Many of those people that tried to "mold" me into something special are not even in my life today.

So 2012, is just about over, and what do I have to show for it. A heart that is mending, and life that is just starting and a smile that says I have not given hope. My hope is not in riches, love or even fame. My hope is in me. I have to potentially to set goals, live a life of purpose and become who I am destined to become.

Oh you want to know about sex, well, I must say in 2012 outside of masturbate and wet dreams, yes guys, girls have them too. It's been pretty non-existent. but that's going to change; because this bitch is in heat  LOL.

So now that 2013 is asking me to open up and let HIM in, I going to spread this legs wide and let him fuck me hard. no not fuck in the bad since. But I talking about that orgasms that makes you keep his lazy ass around because he ain't good for nothing but damn, he can fuck you six ways sideways. Yeah that kind of Fuck. 2013 and I are going go hard and make shit happen.

What about you. Happy Fucking NEW Year  make it count. Remember you only have one life and it will pass and be gone. Let it count for something.

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Why The Blog

Who I am is not really important as what I have to say. I think we all want to be free to say whatever the fuck we want and not have to give an account to anyone. Why, because we could really give a shit what others think anyway. But in the world that we live in we cant do that. Sometimes we just want to yell at people and say you stupid idiot...just tell me you don't really love me, or you were going to break my heart or even the company was doing bad and last month when I brought that house, you could have hinted that in three month I would no longer be employed. There just so much fucked up shit in the world.

Now don't get me wrong this blog is not to complain... I more to talk about things I will not tell anyone in my life. I will make confessions here and will expose my heart but I will not hold back. My guess is not many will find this blog. So it's safe. But I will talk about real shit here.

For example, my broken hearts and what I really wanted to say, when that jerk cut me off the road what I should have done etc... but mostly I will talk about love, sex and the ultimate.., YAY baby orgasms. I have to have a place to release wouldn't you say.

So if you know me, hello, if you don't know me hello. I hope you will comment and share with me as I share feeling with you.

Now I don't know how often I will update but you will not miss the good stuff. In the beginning I have a lot to say so I will update often but as I pour out my heart I sure they will slow down but have no fear. My life is full of twist and turns. :)

So that is the overview of this blog. Hope you will enjoy as much as I will enjoy writing it.